Be gentle with yourself

Lost someone

When you're carrying grief.

You're not alone

Grief is the price of having loved someone, and it doesn't run to a timetable. There's no right way to do it and no schedule you're falling behind on. Whatever you're feeling, or not feeling, is part of it.

What can help

• Let it come in waves. A hard day after a good one isn't going backwards. That's just how it moves.
• Talk about them. Say their name, tell the stories. It keeps them close. It doesn't betray them.
• Lean on people, even when hiding away feels easier. You don't have to do this alone.
• Look after the basics. Food, sleep, water. Grief is exhausting on the body, not just emotionally.
• Skylight offers free grief support (0800 299 100). If it gets too heavy, call or text 1737 any time.